A year ago today, my daughter Marti’s life changed forever.
Photograph by Clay Blackmore
Marti had spent the previous few months in Memphis with our Aunt Sandra in her last weeks battling breast cancer. We thought the lingering fatigue and decreased appetite was due to the physical demands of her helping to care for our Aunt, her subsequent funeral and grief, two cross-country flights within 10 days, and the demands of college and working part-time. Then the bruises started showing up on her legs and arms that would not go away. When they became painful and swollen, I insisted that she see our doctor.
Marti and her nurse, Kristina. She kicked cancer’s butt, too, YEAH!
The doctor called on Sunday evening, March 11th, saying she was very concerned with the results of a recent blood test and that Marti needed to get to the Emergency Room right away where doctors would be waiting for her. She was 21. I can’t describe the look on the nurse’s face when she came into the exam room. She looked like she had just seen death and was trying to hold her composure as she said to us, “The test results are back, this is leukemia, we’ll need to transport you to the main hospital for a bone marrow biopsy to confirm the type of cancer and start treatment. Most likely it’s Acute.” Then she left.
Cancer?!
Um…Excuse me, say whaa???
On March 14th, the results of the Bone Marrow Biopsy confirmed a rare and incurable blood cancer called Chronic Myeloid Leukemia (CML). After 5 days at Hoag Hospital, numerous tests and lots of meetings with various members of the medical staff, we went home, still in disbelief.
In the last year, we’ve grown so much, both individually and together as a mother and daughter. After failing the first type of chemo, Marti is responding to the latest one. The side effects are being managed as best as we can and we’re adjusting to life as it comes, one day at a time.
Photograph by Clay Blackmore
One day at a time…
We’ve learned not to plan too far ahead.
We’ve learned to be in the moment.
We’ve seen friends leave and new ones come into our lives.
We’ve made each other laugh with silly sarcastic cancer jokes when we really wanted to cry.
Photograph by Clay Blackmore
We’re learning not to sweat the small stuff.
We’re learning to be better human beings.
We are grateful.
To learn more about CML, visit the American Cancer Society here.
To learn more about how you can help other Young Adults fighting Cancer, please visit www.StupidCancer.org
To learn more about Marti’s fight and/or make a donation to her medical fund, please visit her page at YouCaring.com or join The Marti Party here on Facebook.